It's the pain of not knowing that tears your heart to shreds
For all families of missing children, the heartache of not knowing where they are or what has happened to them is unrelenting.
....my wife suffered a stroke and I have no doubt it was caused by stress. To this day she still asks over and over, 'Is there any news?' First thing in the morning and last thing at night. 'Is there any news?
We believe that somebody ...... knows where his body lies and I am pleading with them to tell us where it is.
We're not looking for justice. We just want to give him a decent burial. There is no closure for us until then.
If that person could contact us anonymously and tell us exactly where to look, it would be very, very much appreciated.
I don't understand how somebody would have the answer and still remain silent.
People find themselves in a no-man's land of not knowing and there is no end to it.
Your imagination runs away with you, thinking of the worst things that could have happened. Families want to know one way or another, not to be left in limbo.
When a parent realises that a child has wandered off in a shopping centre, they feel a pain in the pit of their stomach. That's what some parents feel for 20 years or more.
It's the last thing they think of when they go to bed and the first thing they think of in the morning -- and the thought is always the same: are they being harmed?
These parents live in a black hole of torment and despair.
A series of comments taken from an article in the Irish Independent by Celine Naughton. The article centres mainly on the case of Aengus Shanahan who went missing 11 years ago in February 2000. A family who are stuck in time and unable to move on and a mother who still asks day and night "is there any news?" Heartbreaking - I would appeal to anyone with any information to telephone 085 209 2119 or email find.gussie@gmail.com in the strictest confidence.
Reading that report has left me shaking with emotion... read it yourself, you'll understand what I mean.
Lots of things in the news have a profound effect on me - watching the raw pain and grief of the parents of young Rhys Jones made me cry on several occasions. I cried when I read about Izumi Suzuki's brave dash to save her two children from the tsunami, and her husband Tatsuya's desperate search to find her alive after discovering that she had been swept away. I get a lump in my throat when watching certain adverts...
I'm not a cry baby, just a sensitive person.
Yet from the McCanns, nothing.
Some surprising comments (which are a million miles away from the above) from the now infamous parents and their friends in the days, weeks and months following Madeleine's mysterious disappearance include...
I bet she's giving whoever she's with her tuppence worth.
If Madeleine had hurt herself inside the apartment – why would that be our fault?
..the fact they are medics and there are four other medics in the group, they would know what to do to resuscitate a child.
It wouldn't be a one year anniversary, it will be sooner than that.
We have to hope and pray that she is being treated like a princess, as she deserves.
It needs only one greedy, unscrupulous character to come forward (for the reward).
He is convinced that little Maddie is imprisoned in a hellish lair.
I have had a long sleeved top on for the first time in over 2 months and it is more pleasant overnight, making sleep easier.
Sleeping through the night, yes. I do actually ..... I haven't had any problems sleeping.
There is nothing in the process to indicate that something bad has happened to her.
There is no evidence to suggest she has come to any harm.
And that's only a small example. The only comment from the McCanns that has had an effect on me in recent years came in the form of a blog post, in what appeared to be a different hand from the usual tripe...
We, like everyone else, await the results of the forensics from the recent searches. We do not know who has taken Madeleine or why. Sometimes people do things for reasons that even they cannot understand. An act of madness, an accident or sudden impulse can lead to consequences that people may never have imagined or intended. Faced with such a situation we believe any human soul will ultimately suffer torment and feelings of guilt and fear.
If you have done something you regret, if you find yourself in a situation you never intended, it is not too late to do the right thing. Please come forward, return Madeleine, leave her in a place of safety. At the very least, help us by letting us know what has happened to our beautiful little girl.
Apart from this statement (which at the time made my hair stand on end), their comments and demeanor have done nothing to incite sympathy. Why is that? The McCanns have shown plenty of emotion in the time they've thrown themselves to the media but perhaps they've been the wrong emotions. We could be classed as callous for having no sympathy for the people who lost their daughter, but combine the breathtaking comments and photos like this, taken when their daughter had been missing just 9 days?...
Very difficult to have sympathy for anyone other than the poor daughter they let down.
It's the pain of not knowing that tears your heart to shreds... words from Kate McCann or the author of the Irish Independent article. You decide...
These two statements may, in fact, contain some truth – depending on what you believe happened to Madeleine.
ReplyDelete“We, like everyone else, await the results of the forensics from the recent searches.”
This statement can actually be the truth - for once. They were waiting to see the results IMO because then they would know what steps needed to be taken to ensure their “cover” for anything unexpected would be in place.
“We do not know who has taken Madeleine or why.”
This could also be true strangely enough. It has been suggested that when Kate shouted, “they’ve taken her” after discovering Madeleine was not in the apartment. It is possible that both Kate and Gerry had already found her dead or dying earlier and had placed her somewhere in the apartment until they could organise moving her. But someone else had taken her or moved her.
“Sometimes people do things for reasons that even they cannot understand”
This is quite possibly true as well. In one scenario the person who could have actually killed Madeleine – though this was not supposed to happen – could then have been the person who returned to the apartment and moved her.
“An act of madness, an accident or sudden impulse can lead to consequences that people may never have imagined or intended”
This is also possibly true and may be referring to the person who returned after accidentally killing Madeleine to move her - “the act of madness” could be referring what “that person” must have suffered when he/she killed Madeleine. The “accident or sudden impulse” could also refer to how Madeleine was killed (if she was) and “can lead to consequences that people may never have imagined or intended” could be referring to Kate and Gerry having to be a “cover” for this person.
“Faced with such a situation we believe any human soul will ultimately suffer torment and feelings of guilt and fear.”
This is also true and may be expressing Kate and Gerry’s real feelings.
So this first paragraph would read as true from the heart and exactly how they feel. That’s why it sounds right. But inside this paragraph they are asking for information from a specific person IMO.
If you have done something you regret, if you find yourself in a situation you never intended, it is not too late to do the right thing. Please come forward, return Madeleine, leave her in a place of safety. At the very least, help us by letting us know what has happened to our beautiful little girl.
The same principals can be used with this statement.
“If you have done something you regret, if you find yourself in a situation you never intended, it is not too late to do the right thing”
Still acknowledging that this person did something accidentally and asking that they return the body/or divulge where it is.
“Please come forward, return Madeleine, leave her in a place of safety. At the very least, help us by letting us know what has happened to our beautiful little girl.”
As above – where is the body.
“Faced with such a situation we believe any human soul will ultimately suffer torment and feelings of guilt and fear.”
ReplyDeleteThis is also true and may be expressing Kate and Gerry’s real feelings.
And explain Kate's deep resentment ?